One of Pamela's "trials" in Pamela by Richardson is that the only person available for Pamela's night-before-the-wedding "talk" is loud, crass, somewhat obnoxious Mrs. Jewkes.
A wonderful Victorian postcard from Wikipedia, |
depicting an aggressive form of birth control. |
Richardson's squeamishness here, as I point out in Mr. B Speaks!, says more about Richardson than Pamela.
Pamela is a country-bred girl. She wouldn't be unprepared for the concept of sexual congress though she did spend her teen years in a more sheltered environment than most lower-class women of the time. Still, this was not yet the age of (late) Victorianism; in even upper-class houses, close living made ignorance of bodily functions a complete impossibility.
Even for Jane Austen (who was perceived as embarrassingly earthly by
her refined nieces and nephews), the acts of the flesh were
commonalities of the eighteenth and nineteenth centuries. In comparison, our modern era often delivers a
bizarre combination of prudish prurient permissiveness whereby a
partially clad body is instantly sexualized by those who take offense
and by those who take an interest while both the offended and the
interested are scandalized at the idea of having to share a bedroom or
bathroom.
The equating of sex with conception happened as early as the Bible: just think of all those "begats." What exactly happened at the point of conception was not understood with some accuracy until the 19th century. One idea put forward by scientists in the 1700s was that the male or female carried the preformed baby (homunculus) within either the sperm or the egg; the sexual act triggered the baby's growth. The idea of shared traits/genetic material is a relatively recent development (Mendel's pea experiments took place in the mid-1800s) though earlier generations recognized that children resembled their parents.
Whatever the prevailing theories, Pamela would have been as prepared and unprepared as new, blushing, virginal brides have ever been with the caveat (considering her time period and personality) that she would have been somewhat less coy than her blushing creator, Samuel Richardson.