Omniscient lovers cause equal problems. The best romances, though they may involve rescues, provide lovers who improve. Darcy learns to communicate outside of his man-cave. Elizabeth learns that she may--despite her quickness of thought--misjudge situations. They come to an understanding.
The omniscient lover overrides all that. This lover may sometimes express doubt, may--after knowing exactly what the significant other wants and needs, borderline stalking the significant other, and subsequently arranging the significant other's life--say, "But if you don't want to--"
But such waffling doesn't exactly betoken a personality in need of transformation or adaptation. Such lovers are rather dull.
However, I do understand the omniscient lover better than the omniscient detective--why it is such an attractive proposition. I believe that at the back of original sin or the natural man--the stuff that leads people to behave stupidly and meanly--is a desire for ease, for guarantees.
Life is just so hard! Sometimes, people wish it would be simple for a change. Label the bad guys. Force the perfect utopia on people. Go with the latest peer pressure/trend.
Dorothy Sayers called this behavior "snatch." And it's understandable--even if wrong (and explains the number of people who have convinced themselves that Chat GPT "borrowing" other people's work for their benefit isn't lazy, short-sighted, and unethical: what will humans do when the work becomes a mass of circular reasoning?)In romance, searching and dating and breaking up and searching and dating and trying to make a relationship work is hard. It's exhausting. It's understandable that people sometimes fall back on a trope where the desired partner simply makes it happen.
Of course, few people truly want that simple solution when it does appear.















